Ep 48 – Sex and Intimacy with Dr. Rose Schlaff: Part 1

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Hi Stepparents,

We are continuing our conversation about sex and intimacy this time with an expert on this topic. Rose Schlaff is a Pelvic Physical Therapist, Intimacy Coach, and founder of Be Well with Rose, LLC.

I’m so excited to share this conversation with you. When Rose and I first met, we quickly found that we were both passionate about the need to underscore and shed light on issues that aren’t often discussed and often feel uncomfortable to talk about.

Having more of the dialogue around gender norms and societal expectations and conditioning around these norms, expectations around sex and what keeps people from having a healthy and vibrant sex life.

Stick around, it’s going to be a good one.  

Introducing Dr. Rose Schlaff

It’s my pleasure to introduce to you, Rose Schlaff. She believes that courageously reclaiming pleasure on a daily basis is the key to health, wealth, and happiness.

Dr. Rose has spent the last 6 years heling women and queer leaders overcome parenthood overwhelm so they can reclaim a deep connection with their body and their partners for years to come.

Besides her coaching, Rose educates sex educators, therapists, and counselors as a guest lecturer for the University of Michigan’s Human Sexuality Certificate program and San Diego State University’s Marriage and Family Therapy Sexuality and Intimacy course.

She also lectures internationally on the topic of sexual and pelvic health.

Rose is unapologetically queer and believes pleasure is her radical resistance. She lives in San Diego, CA with her partner, Nikki, and 2 black cats, Shadow and Rugby, where she spends most of her time rock climbing, dancing, and exploring nature.

Here we go …

Episode Overview

This episode at a glance …

>> [3:24] How and why Rose got into this work
>> [5:44] The challenges of getting support and finding the proper resources to address your needs and what Rose did about it
>> [11:32] The subtle conditioning that surrounds you in media, society and social and professional circles
>> [13:34] #1 obstacle to having a healthy and vibrant sex life and what to do about it
>> [17:50] The common societal shame and guilt around your body’s basic functions and how to connect to pleasure

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The Recap

Thank you so much for joining us for this conversation. Isn’t Rose amazing? I know! Her passion and enthusiasm for her work is contagious. And I love that she makes this often uncomfortable and taboo topic so accessible and straightforward.

This actually ended up being a 3-part conversation. So, be sure to tune it next week as we share more wisdom about increasing your pleasure and intimacy in your relationships and how to set your kids up for success in this area as well.

To recap we discussed …

  1. Societal messaging and conditioning about gender norms
  2. Expectations about sex
  3. The medical system’s approach to sexual health and well-being and why it falls short
  4. What holds most people back from having healthy and vibrant sex lives
  5. How you can start allowing pleasure to unfold in your life

Action Items

Go check out Rose’s links below. She has a couple free goodies for you to help you on your journey of having these conversations and reclaiming your sexuality.

And shoot me a DM on LinkedIn @synergisticstepparenting or on FaceBook @marianatapov to let me know how it goes and your biggest “Aha”s and takeaways.

Until next time, be well!

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Links to Rose:



Let’s Talk About Sex – free guide


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