Ep 60 – Cover Abuse with Allison K. Dagney: Part 2

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Hey Stepparents,

I’m excited to bring to you Part 2 of my conversation with Allison Dagney, who is a covert abuse survivor, author of When Tears Leave Scars – her personal memoir – and a rapid reprogramming coach for others who have been through the painful experience of emotional abuse.

In this episode Allison shares why she never wanted to have a conversation with her ex, a key tactic to look out for, what happens when you’re in an unhealthy relationship, and the best thing to do if you or a loved one is being emotionally abused.  

Get comfy and settle in for this penetrating conversation that is sure to give you more acumen about your intimate relationships. It’ll be worth the listen.

Introducing Allison K. Dagney

Allison Dagney lives in the Midwest of the United States with her three children and their beloved rescue dog.

Allison never aspired to be an author or a coach, but her love of writing paired with an inspirational story, was the perfect recipe to expose hidden emotional abuse and help others.

When Tears Leave Scars, is her gripping true-life story, where Allison aims to shed light into the darkest areas of abusive relationships while giving victims of abuse a beacon of hope and a roadmap for healing.

Through sharing her own personal story, Allison hopes to expose the insidiousness of covert emotional abuse.

Victims and survivors alike are the inspiration behind the book and her coaching business. Allison is raising awareness and helping others heal from their emotional wounds. It is Allison’s core belief that everyone can find the inner peace, relief and emotional empowerment that she herself has discovered!

Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/60.

Here we go …

>> [2:16] Why Allison never wanted to have a conversation with her ex
>> [2:57] A key tactic to look out for and why

>> [5:43] My questions that prevented me from recognizing the signs of emotional abuse
>> [8:48] The pressure to stay in the bubble of the relationship
>> [12:17] What happens when you’re in an unhealthy relationship
>> [14:54] Why you need to be a supportive friend to someone being emotionally abused
>> [18:14] The most important thing is to be observant and aware of the dynamics
>> [20:16] Where things are at now for Allison…
>> [25:28] Allison’s best tip if you think you’re in an abusive relationship

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Thank you so much for joining us for Part 2 of this deep dive into covert emotional abuse. Allison did a fantastic job at identifying the challenges and issues that victims face in a tangible way to help victims and their loved ones make sense of these experiences.

The Recap

To recap, we discussed …

  1. Why Allison never wanted to have a conversation with her ex
  2. A key tactic to look out for
  3. What happens when you’re in an unhealthy relationship
  4. The best thing to do if you or a loved one is being abused

I am grateful to Allison for speaking candidly with us and providing such excellent insights into the dynamics of emotional abuse as well as specific examples of what it was like for her. I hope it has helped you gain a deeper understanding of why it is so difficult for victims to leave.

Action Items

If you’re interested in learning more about Allison’s story, please check out her book, When Tears Leave Scars. And if you’re ready to get help to move forward from an emotionally abusive relationship, check out her page where Allison supports victims of covert emotional abuse heal from their experiences. Find those links in the show notes under Links to Allison.

Set aside some uninterrupted time in a safe and quiet space to sit with and reflect on both Part 1 and Part 2 of my conversation with Allison.

It’s best if you can find a safe way to journal about your reflections and what you are noticing. Having a collection of instances written in one place helps you identify any existing patterns.

If you have someone close to you that you trust, it’s great to work through this information with them. Many find it easier to be accountable to do the work with a trusted buddy.

And, if you feel comfortable sharing your reflections with each other, even better.

If you’re ready to reach out for help, please check out Allison’s website where you can find loads of resources to help you.

Until next time, be well!

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Links to Allison:

Allison’s book: https://www.amazon.com/When-Tears-Leave-Scars-Emotional-ebook/dp/B08XF9FBF4

Allison’s page: https://whentearsleavescars.com/

Related Episodes:

Covert Abuse with Allison Dagney: Part 1

My Story of Covert Abuse

The Stepparenting Cycle and My Why