Ep 50 – Sex and Intimacy with Rose Schlaff: Part 3

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Hi Stepparents,

Welcome back to the finale of my conversation with Rose Schlaff, a Pelvic Physical Therapist, Intimacy Coach, and founder of Be Well with Rose, LLC as we wrap up our discussion about sex and intimacy.

We cover today’s explicit landscape, the key to opening to door and creating safety, how to safely explore sexuality, how to encourage self-advocacy while adhering to expectations, and the Do’s and Don’ts of what to say.

Rose and I quickly bonded from the get-go over our passion about the need to shed light on issues that most of us struggle with but feel uncomfortable discussing.

Get comfy, grab your favorite beverage and join us for this convo. It’ll be worth your while.

Introducing Rose Schlaff

It’s my pleasure to introduce to you, Rose Schlaff. She believes that courageously reclaiming pleasure on a daily basis is the key to health, wealth, and happiness.

Dr. Rose has spent the last 6 years heling women and queer leaders overcome parenthood overwhelm so they can reclaim a deep connection with their body and their partners for years to come.

Besides her coaching, Rose educates sex educators, therapists, and counselors as a guest lecturer for the University of Michigan’s Human Sexuality Certificate program and San Diego State University’s Marriage and Family Therapy Sexuality and Intimacy course.

She also lectures internationally on the topic of sexual and pelvic health.

Rose is unapologetically queer and believes pleasure is her radical resistance. She lives in San Diego, CA with her partner, Nikki, and 2 black cats, Shadow and Rugby, where she spends most of her time rock climbing, dancing, and exploring nature.

Here we go …

>> [2:16] Availability of explicit content without context
>> [4:26] The key to opening the door and creating safety
>> [5:42] Modeling, consent, and checking in about the sex conversation
>> [7:09] Discussing boundaries and child protections around explicit content
>> [7:58] Allowing your child to be the teacher and creating a common foundation
>> [9:55] Body autonomy, what to expect and how and when to safely explore sexuality
>> [14:36] How to encourage self-advocacy and while adhering to expectations
>> [16:29] Inviting open ended questions to problem solve solutions
>> [20:47] The Do’s and Don’ts of what to say during a sex talk with your kid

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Thank you so much for joining us for this conversation. Rose is fantastic! It’s clear she love her work and her joy is contagious. And I love the calm comfortable way she speaks about topics that are often touchy and difficult for many of us.

The Recap

To recap, we discussed …

  1. Today’s explicit landscape
  2. The key to opening to door and creating safety
  3. How and when to safely explore sexuality
  4. How to encourage self-advocacy while adhering to expectations
  5. The Do’s and Don’ts of what to say during a sex talk with your child

This concludes our conversation with Rose. But we still have a bit more to cover on the sexual intimacy front. Join us next week as we delve into polyamory. It’s a riveting conversation that will not disappoint.

Action Items

Be sure to check out Rose’s links below. She has some amazing free resources to help you on your journey of reclaiming your sexuality and navigating conversations with your partner and your children.

And if you haven’t yet listened to Part 1 or Part 2 of this conversation, check it out. Find the links to all of that and more in the show notes below.

Gaining new insights is great but to really help the knowledge stick it’s great to share highlights from what you’ve learned. So shoot me a DM on LinkedIn @synergisticstepparenting or on FaceBook @marianatapov and share your biggest takeaways and “Aha”s.

Until next time, be well!

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Links to Rose:



Let’s Talk About Sex – free guide


Related Episodes:

Sex and Intimacy with Rose Schlaff: Part 1

Sex and Intimacy with Rose Schlaff: Part 2

Let’s Talk About Sex